30 Responses to “Question: Are men more selfish then women?”
I don’t know if it is genetic or learned but I personally believe that men think of themselves more often than they think of others. If that is how you define selfish, then men are more selfish. Personally, I also believe a lot of it is learned behavior, though. Women are taught and expected to be the caregivers and think of others too. Men are encouraged to go for the gold. Things are changing since a lot of things now are gender neutral and a lot more mothers are trying to teach their sons to be caring too, but maybe part of it is genetic and it will always be the way of men to push forward and say me first.
Men are more selfish. I have a father, twin brother and boyfriend and they are all the same. The thing is they never THINK to ask what another person (usually a woman) may want or (an even bigger step for their brains) use their Initiative and give it to you or act without the need for constant prompting (what they would refer to as nagging or being bossy.) They are, quite simply, always to busy thinking about their own wants and needs. They are not empathatic individuals and unfortuantly (in day to day life) women are. But remember, as far as I’m concerned, just makes us bigger beings. When women do things for another it becomes expected and soon, nothing out of the ordinary, and then complained about if we are not doing it correctly or if we don’t do it, or not noticed at all because it’s become ‘the norm’ in their minds. If a man puts effort in he wants a f**king medal or something else! Or, in a lot of cases, it is because they are creeping and trying to make up for something they have done wrong or haven’t done.
so right! I can just see my husband when he does something, looking at me and expecting me to say thank you, Honey, that was soooo nice of you to do that! And we’ve been married 37 years. I don’t know if younger men are much better, it depends on how they are raised a little bit, but I honestly think it is just their nature. I have three sons and one helps without question or asking for reward, another expects to be rewarded whenever he helps anyone and the third falls somewhere in the middle.
Truly amusing the self-absorption of the women here…blissfully unaware how people like OPRAH exploit their self-indulgence…ever see a woman opena door for a man or risk her life for one–NEVER HAPPENS!!!
Hon, I’m 45 (and female) and open doors for EVERYONE. There are many for whom I’d risk my life, and countless women have done so. Some have died in the act. In fact, some have died protecting their children from violent, narcissistic men.
Happens every day.
There’s an awfully broad brush being used to tar the male populous here eh?
I have been unfortunate enough to have worked with and met many inconsiderate selfish women, but that does not lead me to believe that the as result of that experience; all or most women are the same…
In my short lifetime, (I’m 23) I’ve seen more women cheat on more men than the other way around. I’ve seen guys get left ending up clueless and confused because of all the lies the girl told. I know guys can cheat and lie too, but as of now it appears that many more women are more selfish and more full of shit. Signed, an honest guy.
Humans are generally selfish by nature. Cruelness is an innate attribute, we all posses it so to say that a man is more selfish it depends on the situation he is in. Men do think of themselves, but women are selfish because they often consider their children and themselves above all. We are what we are. Why say the other sex is better or worst than the other. We were all created equally by God therefore we are all selfish. Our situation defines just how selfish we are.
Men are more selfish, especially if they were raised by a stay-at-home mom who did everything for them. I’m expected to work full-time, come home, fix his meals, do his laundry, clean his toilet,help the kids with homework, get them ready for bed, and take care of everybody’s needs, while he sits for hours watching TV. If I ask him to take out the trash, it’s always “Wait until the next commercial!” and then it rarely happens. However, I’m supposed to have limitless energy in bed. I’m exhausted all the time – sleep 5-6 hours at the most. I’m a slave, but I have no other choice. A little appreciation would go a long way.
Hey Betty Jo,
How about this, I work a job the requires me to work 4 – 12hr shifts a week leaving Sun, Mon , Tue as my weekend. My wife works part time when she feels like it and when she is not to “sick”(< 15 hrs a week). I get to do the chores on Mon and Tue, you know clean and vacuum the house, do the grocery shopping, the laundry, get all the dishes washed and put away, basically all the things that have accumulated while I was working. I pack my son’s lunch and set out his clothes for school everyday. My wife rules the TV; I so not get to touch the remote when she is at home. She needs to see her 90’s drama reruns and reality shows you know. As for intimacy, she doesn’t have the energy either, well at least not for me; she did for her boyfriend during their 11 month affair. I am starting to suspect that my wife is taking advantage of my good nature and might actually be a wee bit selfish. I don’t know you tell me…..
abused man I feel for you.. Unfortunately there’s too few good men out there! Any women with kids already have too much with today’s high expectancy society.. We are expected to be perfect role models for our kids, great workers and keep a clean out.. My husband expect to be thanked for doing dishes but if I stays up with the kids because they were sick.. I don’t get thanked or a day to recoup.. I’m expected to go to work (where I get blasted for not being there or taking too much time off!!)..
You tell me !! Maybe I should have an affair.. He might actually wake up
After reading this, I think about all that my mom has done for me and how selflessly she did it. Women are generally the more caring and empathetic sex (there’s not much arguing that – females generally are the nurtures). So, in turn, it makes men selfish.
My boyfriend expects me to thank him for every little thing he does. However, when he forgot my birthday, he said I needed to remind him that week. Then, days later, he gives only to make up for the initial faux pas. He is, as he put it himself, overwhelmed by his own world. And it’s a shame because, here I am, working the same engineering job as him and, yet, I expect myself to have this whole other life as an effeminate female. I help him clean his place, take care of his dog, compliment him, drive him around, and buy him all these cutesy, romantic gifts. And, I haven’t received that back.
I am a fool like my mom. Giving myself so much that it drive me crazy emotionally. And, then, I’m the “crazy” one. *sigh*
You are all selfish. All of you. Every human being. It doesn’t matter what you have between your legs. Listen to your belly aching. Abused Man = selfish. Tara = selfish. Loopyloo = Selfish. If you want to be pissed at something, have some goddamn guts and hate everyone including yourselves. Wussies.
Men are selfish- the best place to learn this is to listen older more experienced woman talk to eachother. THEY KNOW- been there done that. Thats why it is rare to see older woman remarry. They will all tell you how men are children who just want what they want. İt doesnt have to take a lifetime of misery to learn this lesson. Every woman over 50 will tell you that men are selfish. They cant all be wrong !
It is a known fact that women are of course the most dishonest and manipulative, vain and self serving. Of course there are exceptions to everything. Women are known to lie upto 3 times more than men,generally about things like how much their new pair of shoes cost. Women are more concerned about there appearance, this is why shops are packed with well dressed women buying more and why they block toilets on planes whilst they adjust their makeup.Quite often you will hear a man say “she wears the pants” when it comes to things relating to domestic decisions..this usually means that the women has used every emotional tactic to get her own way that the man realises that it just isnt worth the hassle/toy throwing/tears/ to have an opinion. Usually the women smiles when the man says this in a proud display of selfishness.Generalisaions arent always accurate though and there are some lovely good natured helpful females, unfortunately the majority of them seem to be of an older generation.
when it comes to relationships the male is the giver sexually and generally when it suits the women who may or may not have a headache. Men generally are on top doing the work whilst the femalelies back. Women will cheat on partners more often than men. When the relationship is over much fewer women will bother to explain why and be truthful about the real reasons.They can be more ruthless in buissness and more concerned about money.Men are more honest about their selfishness where as a women would never admit to themselves never mind some on else
Humans in general are a selfish species that through greed will eventually destroy everything. We create and allow extreme social injustices and let other humans starve while the rich, who exploit the poor, eat executive lunches and drive polluting 4×4s through the city.There are more similarities to men and women than most would care to admit.Its always the others, never ourselves..take responsibility and show some more love and consideration.
Some women are more selfish. Some men. Some women aren’t. Some men aren’t. But seriously, no one is defining their terms enough to reach any conclusions. To be selfish is what? To have a completely egotistical paradigm without a idea for anyone outside oneself? Or is it to act selfishly? People using their cerebral cortex to think can believe in altruism and act accordingly. If they are principled. We are talking of humans not apes, those who have the capacity to choose how to act. We’re talking of a diverse species. Evolutionary programing and instinct. Perhaps it leads to some tendancy. But it is humans higher thought that allows them to make any moral choice. Hmmm so perhaps the answer is. All animals are “selfish” male and female because evolutionarily they have developed to be functional, to feed themselves, warm themselves, feed their young. But humans make choices based on higher thought and belief systems. The above opinions I think are prejudice. How can humanity be expected to become moral entitys if they are divided by sex and the sexes team up against one another to say one is more selfish, or whatever. It’s as much sexism as saying that a certain race is limited is racism.
Men are definitely more selfish, its always about them in terms of everything…..if they wouldn’t benefit in doin something,they jst dont do it. or as soon as u do wat dey do then u a all of a sudden such a bitch………
I came across this thread after googling ‘how to become more selfish’. This was actually the advice of a marriage counsellor whom we’ve been seeing after my wife admitted to being unfaithful. Apparently, I’m not selfish enough.
I haven’t met every man in the world, or every woman. But men are definitely MORE selfish!! (I haven’t tasted every strawberry, but I still know they’re sweeter than lemons, stupid analogy, but get it??)
Men will exhibit unselfishness to a new woman they’re dating, or to a female boss, even to a child. But to a committed, caring women, most men I’ve known are completely focused on getting their own needs met. Period! My high school boyfriend was the only exception to this (sigh, where is he?)
I have a 11 month old with the love of my life. Every time I’ve taken care of something twice in a row (getting cases of water, oil changes, laundry…) he never does it again and expects me to do it infinitely, so he can have more free time. If I ask him to contribute, I’m ‘dumping on him’ Waaaaa!
Here’s another question – Why don’t men GROW UP????
I don’t know if it is genetic or learned but I personally believe that men think of themselves more often than they think of others. If that is how you define selfish, then men are more selfish. Personally, I also believe a lot of it is learned behavior, though. Women are taught and expected to be the caregivers and think of others too. Men are encouraged to go for the gold. Things are changing since a lot of things now are gender neutral and a lot more mothers are trying to teach their sons to be caring too, but maybe part of it is genetic and it will always be the way of men to push forward and say me first.
To be direct, yes, men are more selfish than women.
men are definitely more selfish!!!
A friend and neighbor passed this on to me and I thought you might find it interesting. Hope you get a good laugh
Pampurred 15 PIECES OF ADVICE TO BE PASSED ON TO YOUR MOM, YOUR
DAUGHTERS OR GRANDDAUGHTERS, NIECES, AUNTS, GIRLFRIENDS, ETC.
1. Don’t imagine you can change a man — unless he’s in diapers.
2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
3. If they put a man on the moon — they should be able to put
them all up there.
4. Never let your man’s mind wander — it’s too little to be out
alone.
5. Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature
anyway.
6. Men are all the same — they just have different faces, so that
you can tell them apart.
7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity
to make some woman miserable.
8. Women don’t make fools of men — most of them are the
do-it-yourself types.
9. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too
old for it.
10. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
11. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
12. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40
years. Even in Biblical times, men wouldn’t ask for directions.
13. If he asks what sort of books you’re interested in, tell him
checkbooks.
14. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him
jokes, it means that you laugh at his.
15. Sadly, all men are created equal.
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LMAO, that’s some funny stuff loopyloo350, thanks
Men are more selfish. I have a father, twin brother and boyfriend and they are all the same. The thing is they never THINK to ask what another person (usually a woman) may want or (an even bigger step for their brains) use their Initiative and give it to you or act without the need for constant prompting (what they would refer to as nagging or being bossy.) They are, quite simply, always to busy thinking about their own wants and needs. They are not empathatic individuals and unfortuantly (in day to day life) women are. But remember, as far as I’m concerned, just makes us bigger beings. When women do things for another it becomes expected and soon, nothing out of the ordinary, and then complained about if we are not doing it correctly or if we don’t do it, or not noticed at all because it’s become ‘the norm’ in their minds. If a man puts effort in he wants a f**king medal or something else! Or, in a lot of cases, it is because they are creeping and trying to make up for something they have done wrong or haven’t done.
so right! I can just see my husband when he does something, looking at me and expecting me to say thank you, Honey, that was soooo nice of you to do that! And we’ve been married 37 years. I don’t know if younger men are much better, it depends on how they are raised a little bit, but I honestly think it is just their nature. I have three sons and one helps without question or asking for reward, another expects to be rewarded whenever he helps anyone and the third falls somewhere in the middle.
Do men get more selfish once they get (further) in a relationship?
Truly amusing the self-absorption of the women here…blissfully unaware how people like OPRAH exploit their self-indulgence…ever see a woman opena door for a man or risk her life for one–NEVER HAPPENS!!!
Hon, I’m 45 (and female) and open doors for EVERYONE. There are many for whom I’d risk my life, and countless women have done so. Some have died in the act. In fact, some have died protecting their children from violent, narcissistic men.
Happens every day.
There’s an awfully broad brush being used to tar the male populous here eh?
I have been unfortunate enough to have worked with and met many inconsiderate selfish women, but that does not lead me to believe that the as result of that experience; all or most women are the same…
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It was just a question
If you feel women are selfish, enlighten us in how some are…
In my short lifetime, (I’m 23) I’ve seen more women cheat on more men than the other way around. I’ve seen guys get left ending up clueless and confused because of all the lies the girl told. I know guys can cheat and lie too, but as of now it appears that many more women are more selfish and more full of shit. Signed, an honest guy.
Humans are generally selfish by nature. Cruelness is an innate attribute, we all posses it so to say that a man is more selfish it depends on the situation he is in. Men do think of themselves, but women are selfish because they often consider their children and themselves above all. We are what we are. Why say the other sex is better or worst than the other. We were all created equally by God therefore we are all selfish. Our situation defines just how selfish we are.
Men are more selfish, especially if they were raised by a stay-at-home mom who did everything for them. I’m expected to work full-time, come home, fix his meals, do his laundry, clean his toilet,help the kids with homework, get them ready for bed, and take care of everybody’s needs, while he sits for hours watching TV. If I ask him to take out the trash, it’s always “Wait until the next commercial!” and then it rarely happens. However, I’m supposed to have limitless energy in bed. I’m exhausted all the time – sleep 5-6 hours at the most. I’m a slave, but I have no other choice. A little appreciation would go a long way.
Hey Betty Jo,
How about this, I work a job the requires me to work 4 – 12hr shifts a week leaving Sun, Mon , Tue as my weekend. My wife works part time when she feels like it and when she is not to “sick”(< 15 hrs a week). I get to do the chores on Mon and Tue, you know clean and vacuum the house, do the grocery shopping, the laundry, get all the dishes washed and put away, basically all the things that have accumulated while I was working. I pack my son’s lunch and set out his clothes for school everyday. My wife rules the TV; I so not get to touch the remote when she is at home. She needs to see her 90’s drama reruns and reality shows you know. As for intimacy, she doesn’t have the energy either, well at least not for me; she did for her boyfriend during their 11 month affair. I am starting to suspect that my wife is taking advantage of my good nature and might actually be a wee bit selfish. I don’t know you tell me…..
abused man I feel for you.. Unfortunately there’s too few good men out there! Any women with kids already have too much with today’s high expectancy society.. We are expected to be perfect role models for our kids, great workers and keep a clean out.. My husband expect to be thanked for doing dishes but if I stays up with the kids because they were sick.. I don’t get thanked or a day to recoup.. I’m expected to go to work (where I get blasted for not being there or taking too much time off!!)..
You tell me !! Maybe I should have an affair.. He might actually wake up
After reading this, I think about all that my mom has done for me and how selflessly she did it. Women are generally the more caring and empathetic sex (there’s not much arguing that – females generally are the nurtures). So, in turn, it makes men selfish.
My boyfriend expects me to thank him for every little thing he does. However, when he forgot my birthday, he said I needed to remind him that week. Then, days later, he gives only to make up for the initial faux pas. He is, as he put it himself, overwhelmed by his own world. And it’s a shame because, here I am, working the same engineering job as him and, yet, I expect myself to have this whole other life as an effeminate female. I help him clean his place, take care of his dog, compliment him, drive him around, and buy him all these cutesy, romantic gifts. And, I haven’t received that back.
I am a fool like my mom. Giving myself so much that it drive me crazy emotionally. And, then, I’m the “crazy” one. *sigh*
You are all selfish. All of you. Every human being. It doesn’t matter what you have between your legs. Listen to your belly aching. Abused Man = selfish. Tara = selfish. Loopyloo = Selfish. If you want to be pissed at something, have some goddamn guts and hate everyone including yourselves. Wussies.
Men are selfish- the best place to learn this is to listen older more experienced woman talk to eachother. THEY KNOW- been there done that. Thats why it is rare to see older woman remarry. They will all tell you how men are children who just want what they want. İt doesnt have to take a lifetime of misery to learn this lesson. Every woman over 50 will tell you that men are selfish. They cant all be wrong !
It is a known fact that women are of course the most dishonest and manipulative, vain and self serving. Of course there are exceptions to everything. Women are known to lie upto 3 times more than men,generally about things like how much their new pair of shoes cost. Women are more concerned about there appearance, this is why shops are packed with well dressed women buying more and why they block toilets on planes whilst they adjust their makeup.Quite often you will hear a man say “she wears the pants” when it comes to things relating to domestic decisions..this usually means that the women has used every emotional tactic to get her own way that the man realises that it just isnt worth the hassle/toy throwing/tears/ to have an opinion. Usually the women smiles when the man says this in a proud display of selfishness.Generalisaions arent always accurate though and there are some lovely good natured helpful females, unfortunately the majority of them seem to be of an older generation.
when it comes to relationships the male is the giver sexually and generally when it suits the women who may or may not have a headache. Men generally are on top doing the work whilst the femalelies back. Women will cheat on partners more often than men. When the relationship is over much fewer women will bother to explain why and be truthful about the real reasons.They can be more ruthless in buissness and more concerned about money.Men are more honest about their selfishness where as a women would never admit to themselves never mind some on else
Humans in general are a selfish species that through greed will eventually destroy everything. We create and allow extreme social injustices and let other humans starve while the rich, who exploit the poor, eat executive lunches and drive polluting 4×4s through the city.There are more similarities to men and women than most would care to admit.Its always the others, never ourselves..take responsibility and show some more love and consideration.
Some women are more selfish. Some men. Some women aren’t. Some men aren’t. But seriously, no one is defining their terms enough to reach any conclusions. To be selfish is what? To have a completely egotistical paradigm without a idea for anyone outside oneself? Or is it to act selfishly? People using their cerebral cortex to think can believe in altruism and act accordingly. If they are principled. We are talking of humans not apes, those who have the capacity to choose how to act. We’re talking of a diverse species. Evolutionary programing and instinct. Perhaps it leads to some tendancy. But it is humans higher thought that allows them to make any moral choice. Hmmm so perhaps the answer is. All animals are “selfish” male and female because evolutionarily they have developed to be functional, to feed themselves, warm themselves, feed their young. But humans make choices based on higher thought and belief systems. The above opinions I think are prejudice. How can humanity be expected to become moral entitys if they are divided by sex and the sexes team up against one another to say one is more selfish, or whatever. It’s as much sexism as saying that a certain race is limited is racism.
Men, definitely men are more selfish.
Men are more selfish, that’s for sure.
Men are definitely more selfish, its always about them in terms of everything…..if they wouldn’t benefit in doin something,they jst dont do it. or as soon as u do wat dey do then u a all of a sudden such a bitch………
Men are waaaay too selfish.
I came across this thread after googling ‘how to become more selfish’. This was actually the advice of a marriage counsellor whom we’ve been seeing after my wife admitted to being unfaithful. Apparently, I’m not selfish enough.
I haven’t met every man in the world, or every woman. But men are definitely MORE selfish!! (I haven’t tasted every strawberry, but I still know they’re sweeter than lemons, stupid analogy, but get it??)
Men will exhibit unselfishness to a new woman they’re dating, or to a female boss, even to a child. But to a committed, caring women, most men I’ve known are completely focused on getting their own needs met. Period! My high school boyfriend was the only exception to this (sigh, where is he?)
I have a 11 month old with the love of my life. Every time I’ve taken care of something twice in a row (getting cases of water, oil changes, laundry…) he never does it again and expects me to do it infinitely, so he can have more free time. If I ask him to contribute, I’m ‘dumping on him’ Waaaaa!
Here’s another question – Why don’t men GROW UP????